Petra, Thank you for your passion and commitment on this issue and offering a place for males to heal. Michael

I was abused by my ex-wife for our ENTIRE relationship, more then 8 years...and i was raped by my cousin (GOD rest his soul) at age 8. Thank you so much for letting people know what men go through every day.

Great website with lots of information. Keep up the great work!

I commend you all for such a tremendous effort, such hard work and dedication to this cause. Hoping to be on local television this week promoting this great cause.

When a woman is violent and abusive in a relationship, it is not necessarily assumed that she is a bad mother. If a man is violent towards his partner, it is automatically assumed that he is an unfit parent. The law presumes that the children are almost always better off with their mother. Consequently the only options for men seem to be to put up with the abuse or to leave the home, since under the law there is no real protection for them. If a male victim seeks help, society should offer the same protection and help to him and his children as is given to female victims. Women should be judged by the same standards as men, and women who are violent should be held legally responsible for their actions. Another issue that prevents men from reporting abuse is a lack of resources, which may be real or imagined. Many domestic violence services are aimed mostly at helping a female population. While the broader term "domestic violence shelter" is becoming more common, many shelters are still known colloquially as "battered women shelters." Legally, many of these community resources are supposed to help male victims as well as female, but there may be resistance for them to do so. Even if these support services do cater to men, abused men may feel as though they are not welcome there because of the primarily female population. Violence is not a gender issue â?? it is a human issue. Wives attack husbands about as often as husbands attack wives. And wives attack first about as often as husbands attack first, which is strong evidence that women's assaults on men can't be explained away simply as self-defense.1 But battered women's advocates were intent on portraying domestic violence as something only men do and only women suffer from. So they'd conveniently leave out the part about women's assaults on men check out my site stop male abuse @myspace